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What makes for a good death? (+4 more burning questions)

I want to live a life so extraordinary, and ridiculous and jam-packed with BEING that by the time I’m 105 I’ll still be doing microadventures in my walker, narrating blog posts on The Mad to Live to my grandchildren, and  starting businesses like an adventure travel agency for “super” senior citizens.

I don’t want to stop to living until the die I physically can’t live anymore!

Why are we the way we are?

But why is this? People ask me quite often why I’m so damn motivated. Most can’t believe I’m 25 years old and I’ve done some of the cool things I’ve done. (Though, I can still be quite immature, believe me, I’m still learning!)

I recently read a fantastic piece written by Venssa Runs -an amazing woman living a nomadic life on her own terms out of a van – titled Seeking Dispersers: A Call to Embrace a Wild Life. In it, she asked 5 very important question that I couldn’t resist writing down in my notebooks:

The 5 Burning Questions

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3. [/fusion_builder_column][fusion_builder_column type=”1_1″ background_position=”left top” background_color=”” border_size=”” border_color=”” border_style=”solid” spacing=”yes” background_image=”” background_repeat=”no-repeat” padding=”” margin_top=”0px” margin_bottom=”0px” class=”” id=”” animation_type=”” animation_speed=”0.3″ animation_direction=”left” hide_on_mobile=”no” center_content=”no” min_height=”none”][fusion_highlight ]Why does it seem like the best among us leave far too soon?  [/fusion_highlight]

4. [/fusion_builder_column][fusion_builder_column type=”1_1″ background_position=”left top” background_color=”” border_size=”” border_color=”” border_style=”solid” spacing=”yes” background_image=”” background_repeat=”no-repeat” padding=”” margin_top=”0px” margin_bottom=”0px” class=”” id=”” animation_type=”” animation_speed=”0.3″ animation_direction=”left” hide_on_mobile=”no” center_content=”no” min_height=”none”][fusion_highlight ]What is it that made these men who they were?  [/fusion_highlight]

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Breaking It Down

I posted these 5 questions on The Mad to Live’s facebook wall and one of my favorite readers, Paul St. John (who, by the way, writes a blog called Not Lost Just Weird all about embracing being different) commented, “What makes a good death? Having lived all the life out of living!”

… And that’s it, really.

The last two questions mention, “who they were” – a state of being, and the “things they did” – a state of doing.

… That’s what it comes down to.

A very inspiring woman and traveler, Britt Reints, who writes a a personal development blog that’s more than just fluff but inspires so much action and change called In Pursuit of Happiness, wrote in her twitter profile, “When I die, I hope they say: she had the guts to be happy.”

… Amen sista!!!

A Final Word

Just because we can break this down into  5 simple questions doesn’t mean the process of answering them in our own lives is easy. I’ve got an article coming to you soon all about my struggles and battles getting the courage to answer these questions.

Asking these these questions promise reflection upon the choices we’ve made so far, and whether or not we truly feel we have been making a well-lived life.

The picture above reads, “If you don’t live for something, you’ll die for nothing.

And for a lot of us, there is that very deep, permanent, fixed place in our bodies that says that we must do something with our lives, that we must be significant in making this world a better place, and we must create, and do, and be, and see, and explore, and experience, and evoke, and inspire.

It is simply within us and how we are.

Some people, they sit on couches. And then there are the men and women driven to do the amazing things they do.

Cheers to that.

And cheers to being rock n’ rollin’ old ladies and men decades from now still living a life well lived!!!!

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About Lauren Rains

Hi my name is Lauren Rains. I write about the human experience. Through thick and thin, I’m dedicated to growth, adventure, integrity, and love. The Mad To Live is based on my pursuits, experiments, research, and lessons of challenge and triumph in all areas of life, including being entrepreneur, a writer, a philosopher, a traveler, a teacher, a student, a creative, a friend, a daughter, a sister, a significant other, a stranger and the list goes on. At the end of the day, I believe human beings are here for two reasons: 1.) to love one another with total acceptance, and 2.) to see what we’re made of as we create the possibilities for an abundant life for ourselves and for others. No more bullshit, let's just enjoy our lives.

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