You see that crazy chick in the picture over there? …Pretty sweet right? That would be me, kickin’ ass and takin’ names and looking sexy while I’m at it. It’s a lot more fun and uplifting to view the ups and downs of life’s adventures as a fearless leader than as the other dude in the picture that’s all tangled up in the monster’s claws and about to be eaten alive. (Good thing I’m about to safe his ass!)

The Adventure Choice

I made a decision a few months back to never ever look at my life as a trial, tribulation, or uphill battle again. Playing the victim roll is LAME, and I’m more interested in being a badass chick that lives my life like I have a reason to live it.

So, I encourage you to ask yourself the same question that led to me this outlook – Do you want to be a badass, Indiana Jones, Lara Croft-esque, trailblazing mover and shaker who’s on an inspiring quest to find all the hidden treasures life has to offer no matter how scared you are of snakes and bad guys, or do you want to be Negative Nancy, Carl Complainer, “why does this always happen to me”, “boo hoo hoo”, ‘I always step in shit” kind of person.

OBVIOUSLY the sexier way of looking at life is the latter… OBVIOUSLY. 😉


However, these are just words. For all you left brainers out there let’s get to the cold hard facts in the numbers. If you want to get technical, think about this simple statistic: 99% of our own happiness is up to us…it’s our own damn fault!

I’d say this statistic is about as true as the equation e=mc(squared) or maybe even as true as the fact that smoking cigarettes kills (Why do people still smoke then?!)  or maybe even as true as the notion that James Franco is my true love… along with John Mayer…and the cute waiter at the coffee shop I’m at right now! 😉

As far as that other little tiny 1%… that’s typically stuff we can’t control… for instance, say you’re traveling and you get 100% of your happiness taste testing all the peculiar, exciting, sometimes scary-looking food at a street market in India. Then that 1% chance of food poisoning comes in and suddenly you have a bad tummy ache to say the least, making you and your body quite unhappy… to say the least. (eek.. Okay, maybe in India that 1% is a little higher, but you get my point, right?! 😉 There will always be cirumstances we can’t change or must go through in order to take part in other things that make us happy and add to our adventure.



THE BATTLE: Freak out, yell  in your native language at people  who don’t speak your language (or are pretending they don’t because you’re so insane), cry, scream, kick your feet, and go sit in a corner somewhere.

– VS. –

THE ADVENTURE: Realize this is your chance to ixnay Plan A and B and come up with an even better C that could possibly turn into one of the best times of your life! Realize that one day you’ll look back on it and it will all seem funny. Realize that this is training for other curve balls that  will happen in life that’ll be even more serious!


THE BATTLE: You can look at the so-called “meat market” is a treacherous land of guys that are jackasses and girls that are bitches that will one day ultimately end up screwing you over. You can do the victim thing where you swear you’ll end up alone with 15 dogs and 5 cats and a rat you’ve named “Male”. You can be so self-important that you don’t have the time of day for the guy/girl that got up the nerve to drop a terrible line at you.

– VS. –

THE ADVENTURE: See that there are so many amazing men and women out there and you get to be on a journey to find your perfect treasure. You can laugh at the corny pick up line about how they lost their library card and now you’re being checked out. You can embrace your independence and realize that flying solo doesn’t mean you’re alone. (That would be Matt Kimberley of Get a Grip in that photo with me! He’s not a creeper though! ;-P)


This is your life dammit! And it is going to be a WILD, INSANE, CRAZY, ride! If it is anything different, if it isn’t 99% a wild ride, if you aren’t looking at your life as this amazing adventure then you aren’t really living!!!

Start that passion project, book that international ticket, ask that cute person out, take a chill pill, jump out of limbo, get into trouble!!!!

Today’s call to action is as follows: Pick one thing in your life that’s been scaring the crap out of you, driving you crazy, bringing you down… basically… that’s been sucking lately. In big bold letters at the top of a piece of paper give it a movie-like title. Something like, “Lauriana Rains and the Last Crusade…to Launching My Next Business.” (Get it… hah hah hah.)

After you come up with your corny title (and it must be corny because, well, why not take life a little less seriously, ya know?) I want you to list the 3 things that scare you or bring you pain about the particular thing. After that, for each one, write down how you’re going to kick it’s ass, what you’ll get out of kicking it’s ass, and what the cost is of not kicking it’s ass. Write down how and why you’re going to take names, make moves, and kick this dilemna that’s been beating you up in the ass. THE WHOLE POINT IS TO CREATE AN ADVENTURE OUT OF IT!!!!

FOR THE COMMENTS: Feel free to share it or at least a story in the form it in the comments! It’s bound to inspire others! Or, at the very least, share a corny yet badass movie title for your adventure! Or, just say hey!

PS – Some things to come on The Mad To Live:

VISION BOARDS: A Video tour of my Vision Board for all the big, amazing things I’m excitedely chasing after and creating in my life. The Vision Board has been one of the best exercises I’ve ever done to get my shit together and truly see just where I’m going to be and am going in life. I’ll give you some ideas and resources on how to create your own, and then I want to see yours!

A FREE eBOOK: The announcement of a very cool eBook I’m writing that’s not just going to the most beautifully designed eBook you’ll have ever viewed in your PDF viewer, but will also be full of content sure to evoke some amazing, creative ideas for those truly mad to live. It’ll be a free eBook with the option to donate whatever you think it’s worth – proceeds going to the same organization you guys donated over 1.2K to for the Mad To Live 50 World Changer Walk:

BUSINESS VENTURES: The Launch of WILD WORLD CREATIVE website, my web design and consulting business that’s allowed me to do that whole location independent, lifestyle design thing that. I’ve been working tirelessly on it forever (just as Srini from BlogCastFM… Oh yea! – creative partnership announcement with BlogCastFM coming soon I can’t wait to share with you guys!) It’s web design for world travelers, entrepreneurs, and passion project addicts.

About Lauren Rains

Hi my name is Lauren Rains. I write about the human experience. Through thick and thin, I’m dedicated to growth, adventure, integrity, and love. The Mad To Live is based on my pursuits, experiments, research, and lessons of challenge and triumph in all areas of life, including being entrepreneur, a writer, a philosopher, a traveler, a teacher, a student, a creative, a friend, a daughter, a sister, a significant other, a stranger and the list goes on. At the end of the day, I believe human beings are here for two reasons: 1.) to love one another with total acceptance, and 2.) to see what we’re made of as we create the possibilities for an abundant life for ourselves and for others. No more bullshit, let's just enjoy our lives.

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